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Written by Gayle Nobel   
Monday, 28 April 2014 16:00

Another challenge? Am I nuts?

Don't answer that. I will. Yes, but in a good way.

My coach has given me an outrageous challenge and I could use your help. He has given me just 30 days to schedule 100 Powerful Coaching Conversations. I have to block out at least 90 minutes for a life-changing conversation with each person. The cost is zero and the responsibility is all on me.

So, who do you know who might want to spend 90 minutes with a life coach who supports and helps people reframe their challenges and conquer the obstacles in their way? Who do you know who would like to create powerful change in their lives?

Fortunately, I just need to schedule the conversations and not have them all in 30 days. I said I was "in" so now I need to figure out how to make this happen.

As many of you know, I have been in life coach training for the last year. I am finishing up my coaching requirements for course completion. I am close to graduation and launching my coaching business "The Art of Possibility." This challenge is a great opportunity for me to practice, practice, practice and gain another 100 hours of experience under my belt with 100 new people.

Coaching is done via phone or Skype throughout the US and internationally.


Who do you know?

"Fear is misunderstood excitement. When we contemplate change, we get a bubble of energy. If we are in a state of well-being, we will feel exhilarated by that energy. If we are insecure, we will get frightened."

~~Fritz Perls

Last Updated on Monday, 28 April 2014 23:06
A Thief Among Them PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gayle Nobel   
Saturday, 12 April 2014 15:06

thief |THēf|

noun ( pl. thieves |THēvz| )

a person who steals another person's property, esp. by stealth and without using force or violence.

Kyle has assembled and delivered approximately 150 shoeboxes filled with toiletries for the homeless for a local Shoebox Ministry. Each box represents his hard work and giving back to a community. Creating the shoeboxes may seem simple and straight forward but nothing about it comes easily for Kyle.

The process of shoebox creation begins when Kyle and Angelica (his 1:1 assistant) go out into the community asking for donations from local businesses of empty boxes and supplies. Sometimes they get turned down. People who know Kyle, such as his dentist, have been gracious enough to make generous donations of needed items. Friends and family members collect and donate items on a regular basis to support Kyle in this project. Kyle also purchases items with donated and gifted funds as well as regular parental funding. The process of purchasing items is a part of the challenge and learning.

Angelica is in charge of organizing the project and guiding Kyle each step of the way to be successful in the pieces of the task in which he participates. It's a beautiful ongoing process of learning, growing, and giving. There is tremendous commitment and behind the scenes effort for each box that is created.

Kyle makes a weekly delivery to the church collection point where he has developed relationships over the last couple of years of regular donations to Shoebox Ministry. He has even received a 2013 and 2014 international "Naturally Autistic People Awards" nomination for community achievement.

His work is documented in this previously posted video with music written and sung by his sister Leah.

Can you imagine someone who knows Kyle and knows intimately about this project rummaging through boxes and STEALING approximately 30 toothbrushes? I couldn't either! This discovery was shocking and unexpected. Angelica made the discovery when she was packing up belongings in preparation for Kyle's move (with her) to a new day program.

This is when the drama began. I wrote and spoke personally to the program manager and her supervisor. I was assured by the supervisor that they were looking into it. I came up with a brilliant idea in the form of an invitation to the thief to return the stolen goods anonymously. And then perhaps go one step further, and type a letter of apology to Kyle, Angelica and myself. Also anonymously. I suggested this multiple times to the manager and administration of Aires (company that runs AAA West, his now former day program) both verbally and in writing. Nobody ever seemed excited about it and I was continually assured they were investigating. I was never informed that this this opportunity was offered to staff, so I am assuming it was not.

But why? I never felt a sense of commitment from Aires to find a way to make this situation right. In fact, I never received an apology from the manager who is in charge of the program. I can't imagine that the guilty party would step forward for risk of being fired. At least I would HOPE they would be fired. But I wonder. The idea of giving someone a chance to return items seemed to me, the safest and best way to give the thief a chance to do the right thing.

Dear AAA West Shoebox Thief,

What were you thinking when you decided to steal Kyle's supplies for creating shoebox toiletry kits for the HOMELESS?? At this point, it is not about the toothbrushes but about a much bigger process and ideal that you have chosen to steal from and therefore, disrespect.  I invite you to watch this video again and then reflect upon what you did. Perhaps your perspective will change.

Where was your heart and soul when you chose to rummage through his boxes and take what did not belong to you? Particularly as his supplies were being packed up so he could go on to a setting better suited to his needs. REALLY?

Is this all about control at a time when you felt it slipping away? Or just a mindless stealing of items that belong not to you, but ultimately, the needy. Perhaps you consider yourself needy. Kyle could have made you a box.

I wonder... how do you live with yourself? How do you look in the mirror each day and brush your teeth? A bad taste in your mouth and a bad taste in your soul is surely lingering. In the bigger picture of life, the scheme of things, those brushes don't matter. We will get more. But what DOES matter is the choice you made when you took them and the choice you continue to make by holding on to them.

Though I do not know for sure, I suspect I might know who you are. I would never accuse without knowing, but my intuition is pointing me in your direction.

And now the saga has gotten even more unbelievable. As supplies are being organized in Kyle's new program, it is discovered that soap and shampoo have also been stolen. Soap for the homeless? REALLY? The lowness of this act has just gotten lower. We will get more soap Aires AAA West thief,  but you will still be dirty.

There is still time to do the right thing. Why wouldn't you want to do that? The ball is in your court now. Ask your heart what it thinks you should do. It's never too late to return the items to Kyle so that he can in turn, give them to the homeless.

Gayle Nobel

As always, I love to hear from you readers. And if you have an idea, submit it, and I will forward to along to the day program. I'm sure they would love to hear from you. :-)




Last Updated on Saturday, 12 April 2014 22:10
Grateful for a day in my life.... PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gayle Nobel   
Tuesday, 08 April 2014 15:37

Stumbling back into my life, I open the door to my day.

Kyle is in a cycle. Again. They have returned and I am a deer in the headlights wondering what our next step can be to help ameliorate some or all of the symptoms. Kyle spends his days in bed. This is where he finds reprieve from the storm that is his life. I'm grateful for that bed.

I wake up knowing there is some challenging work ahead with Kyle but my right hand gal is on her way to help out. Angelica shows up for Kyle with amazing grace and infinite love and patience. I am no longer battling his day program for a slice of her time. She and Kyle have moved on (to a new program) and now I can depend on her being here with him when he is not well enough to go to the program. Long story and not worth the energy of rehashing it. I'm grateful for the courage to make a change.

Ang arrives and I move on to what's next. Soon I am on a phone call with my supervised coaching class. (Headed toward completion of a year of life coach training and graduation in the near future.) Upon reflection I am in awe of the way technology and a common goal can connect six people so diverse. We show up on the call. Me in Arizona, another in NYC, another in Switzerland, another in Kenya, another in Pakistan, another from UAE but visiting/calling from NYC and our instructor in Portugal. WOW! For 90 minutes, the world feels very small. We listen. We coach. We get coached. We receive feedback. Learning is energizing and fun. I'm grateful for my passion.

I volunteer to be a client for another student who needs one. She is being evaluated on her fifteen minute coaching session with me. Through visualization, my new best friend, I am able to get a fresh perspective on an issue I want to gain clarity on. I create change and move forward in my thinking. The power of life coaching. Love it! I'm grateful for the possibility of creating change.

"How we do anything is how we do everything." I'm thinking this tiny shift will give me a large bang for my buck. I'm grateful for awareness.

I stumble through the day a little fuzzy headed having just come back last night from visiting my daughter in Austin. It should be illegal to get that much rest and have that much fun in a four day weekend. It's great when kids become adults and THEY plan the activities and drive YOU around. But most importantly, I treasure the time with my daughter whatever we are doing. Good times. I'm grateful for the gift of my kids.

And speaking of gifts, I am reminded of the gift of life and the preciousness of each day, not to be taken for granted because it is not a given that any of us will see the next one. Our special Tammy (Kyle's other helper) survived a horrendous car accident while we were gone with just a few bumps and bruises and a new appreciation for life. I am appreciating life anew via the fumes of her trauma. I'm grateful for NOW.

I realize this is Autism Awareness Month. Yes, I am aware of the impact of autism on a daily basis. It is tightly woven in the fabric of my life. I am entangled in its web. This year I am focused inward making things happen for Kyle and striving to thrive on this journey. No hoopla for me or lighting it up blue- just  taking one step after another. I'm grateful for strength.

The diversion of life coach training has been working well for me. And because we are required to be a client as well as practice coaching clients, I've had the opportunity to grow and shift perspectives and experience the amazing power of the coaching conversation. I'm hooked. And grateful.

Just sharing today (actually yesterday). I write this post to remind and inspire you to enjoy your day, enjoy your life, and remember to Breathe.

PS One of my clients told me today I was like her "personal emotional sherpa guide". I kinda like that metaphor though she is the one who has to carry her own baggage.   My job is to support her in peeling away the layers to get to her "amazing" on the inside.

Who do YOU know who would like to move forward and create powerful change in their life? I am offering a free GIFT of a couple of life coaching sessions to readers, friends, friends of friends of Autism with Attitude.

The Art of Possibility

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 08 April 2014 23:14
Your Journey Is.... PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gayle Nobel   
Friday, 07 March 2014 19:33

It's been quite a day/week. I struggled with "what is" and then chose to move forward. Moving forward sometimes means taking a few steps backward in the process.

Arising from the massage table (first massage in over a year), this was the first thing I saw. It stopped me in my tracks. Oh yeah. I forgot. "Life is what it is until you decide whether you like it or not."

This is such a powerful reminder. I hope it speaks to you as much as it did to me. 

Stay tuned for a revamped website. The Art of Possibility, my coaching business will be renting some space from Autism with Attitude soon.

Last Updated on Saturday, 08 March 2014 02:46
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